You cannot work your way up from booty call to girlfriend.
Likewise, if your relationship is all about the sex and you want more than this, opt out.
If they were interested, you wouldn’t still be chasing them!
They believe their own hype and overestimate their interest and end up making promises they can’t and won’t deliver on.
Watch how quickly their personality switches or they disappear when they’re expected to deliver.
You have more self respect than this and you don’t need to be the equivalent of a used car salesman forcing yourself on someone. I will not play Florence Nightingale because it is not my job to fix/heal/help the Walking Wounded, which means no partners with substance dependency/abuse and no partners that have issues that prevent them from healthily engaging in a relationship. Let them sort out their own problems and don’t hide behind theirs.
Always acknowledge the red flag that is a dependency on something or emotional/behavioural issues that prevent a healthy relationship.
This guideline also applies to when they you to make an exception to your normal rule of behaviour – someone who genuinely has your best interests at heart will not expect or demand that you do something outside of your normal behaviour. Whether it’s figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.
1 I celebrate myself, and sing myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you.When a man is interested, you are in no doubt about their interest and they don’t run the risk of losing you.You have to stop acting like every guy could be the one and like there’s a fire – there isn’t.Do not erode your self-esteem by disrespecting yourself in a relationship. This is a fundamental part of Whether they tell lies about the future to get what they want in the present or they just refuse to talk about the future, if you’re involved with Pinocchio or you’re with someone who can’t see their way to making plans with you, cut them off as soon as this becomes evident.Some people just can’t help but talk themselves up a storm at the beginning.People who have integrity and respect you don’t lie to you.