Maybe they also think that a foreign woman might expect from their man that he’s telling his feelings straight out several times a day, something a shy Japanese man just won’t do.Another problem is that many of the Japanese men seem to be afraid of their English ability and thus fail to approach a foreign woman.I also experienced that they’re unable to do anything on their own.
I personally know a few couples where either the man or the woman is foreign and I noticed quite a lot of differences in the kind of relationship they have.
Please note that the following is based on my personal experience and that not everybody out there is like that.
Most foreign men on the other hand, have no issues approaching a Japanese woman in English – or even in broken Japanese.
These are just a few theories by friends, co-workers and myself.
In relationships where the man is foreign I noticed that they mostly speak his native language.
Although they live in Japan and sometimes even have children together who also speak Japanese, the foreign guys don’t / can’t speak Japanese.
It might be a bit more difficult if you’re looking for a serious relationship as there are those women I mentioned earlier who either want you as “exotic accessory” or just want your DNA to create a cute “half-child”.
All in all, it is easy for a Western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan.
Because of all that I’ve seen couples who got divorced, even when there were kids involved.
I noticed that those kind of relationships seem to work out better if they live in his home country and not in Japan.
I’m sure you have your own and there’s much more behind all this, but that’s it for starters, I guess.